LESSONS LEARNED…….

Everyone we come in contact with, every experience we have, every place we go, all have a reasons or purposes for showing up in our lives. You either learn a lesson or teach a lesson. Any which way a lesson is learnt by someone.

It took me a while to understand that and to practice that outlook on my experiences in life. But now I know. Now I understand. I see disappointments as lessons . Breakups, heartache, happy times, new beginnings, can all teach us a lot if we look for the good in all experiences. As I always say, “Focus on the good and let the bad see for itself.” See the good in people who treat you bad and realize they have inner issues of their own.  See disappointments as life telling you to try something different, maybe its time to move on to something bigger and better. Could be you have outgrown where you are or who you’re with in life and its time for the next chapter in your life, on to better things. Look for the positive and run with it.

Give thanks to the Universe, God, Buddha, Allah the powers that be, or whatever you call you Creator, for the opportunities ahead. Give thanks for the past, the present, the future. Accept that no matter how bad it may seem at this point, ” This too shall pass.” If you need time to sulk or cry do so, but don’t stay in that mode. Pick yourself up, keep a positive outlook and see the bright future ahead of you. When you are down there is only one place to go and that is up. Get back up and keep rising. Know that you are a Divine creation of the Divine One and see the God in you. You were made to succeed in life. You were made to have abundance in your life. Abundance of great things, great experiences and great love. You are wonderful made and wonderfully made in loved. So believe it, feel it, act it and shine.

Learn the lessons from your life journey. Embrace what you learn. Share what you learn with others. Keep rising. Keep shining. Live every moment. Laugh everyday. Love beyond word and keep striving to be the best you can be in all aspects of your life journey. Life is what you make it so make it great.

 

 

And It Is So……………

Su~Jo~Ly

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BE YOUR “MATE”

Be your “mate” simply means, be the person you want to be with. 

I find that a lot of women, and men, have list of qualities/qualifications they want in a mate. List containing any where from 1 to 100 things they want in their significant other. Now, there is nothing wrong with knowing what you want in your mate and being up front and honest about that fact. But what I have noticed is a lot of times we make these list about what we want in that person without even thinking about what we have to offer or bring to the table.

I have learnt over the years that most times we attract people in our lives that have some of the things we have on the list and a lot of things we don’t have listed. Why is that? It’s because we attract who we are at our core.

That tells me that in order to attract the person I want to be with, I have to first become that person. If I want someone who “have their shit together,” I should  “have my shit together” as well.  If I am looking for a caring supportive mate, I have to be a caring and supportive mate likewise. Try making a list of your qualities/qualifications for being a mate. How many of those qualities/qualification you have on your list for a mate, do you actually possess ? All or some?

Law of attraction says we attract who we are and what we believe. Positivity draws positivity. Negativity draws negativity. Be mindful of your thoughts and the energy you put out, because you will attract those same thoughts and energy right back to you in one form or another.

Be the person you want to be with…….Be your mate.

And It Is So ………….

Su~Jo~Ly

DIFFERNCES MAKE THE WORLD BEAUTIFUL.

As a child I would hear the grown folks say, ” Two things you never argue about are religion and politics.” I didn’t quite understand why they said that but now that I’m an adult I finally understand.

It’s sort of mind perplexing to me that people feel the need to impose their views on others.  To hate others just because they are different or have different views.” To each it’s own” I say. What works for you, works for you and that’s a great thing. But do not try to impose your views on me. Let us agree to disagree and move on.

We can all exist in this world in harmony even if we have different views. Your truth is not my truth and my truth is not your truth. Let us embrace differences, learn from each other’s experiences. Realize that even though our views are different that doesn’t meant they are wrong. They may be wrong for one person but just right for another. My friend can walk in 6 inch  stilettos all day and I could not last fifteen minutes.

Differences are what make this world a beautiful place . Different cultures, beliefs, languages and ethnicity. So much to experience. So much to learn. So much to embrace. The world would be so much more peaceful if we learn to accept the differences in each other and agree to disagree. There is no need to be angry about someone else views or beliefs. No need to fight to be right. No need for hatred. We can and should just let folks live their truth and you live yours.

Life is beautiful when we let go go our hang ups and just live. Live in love.

 

 

And It Is So………..

Su~Jo~Ly

New Ventures

I’m back!!!!!!

It has been a while since I posted anything on this form. A lot has transpired since my last post.

I got laid off from my job . My seven year relationship came to an end. Hurricane Irma devastated the lives of millions including me and I started having panic attacks.

With all that going on I didn’t have the time or passion to write anymore. But that too has passed and I’m back on track. I have dusted of my depression and I am ready to start a new journey in life.

Panic attacks are no more, my ex and I are good friends, the aftermath from Irma is clearing up and I have a new business venture, So life is great now and I am living in gratitude, love and happiness.

I was told a long time ago by my mom that every disappointment is a blessing in disguise. I look at events in my life, good or bad, as lessons to be learnt and I look for the positive in all experiences.  Focus on the good and let the rest work itself out.

I am excited about this new chapter in my life. I am looking forward to seeing all the good life has in store for me. I am grateful for all experiences, the good , the bad, the indifferent, but I will focus on the good so more good vibrations will flow into my life.

My friend had this “Pray for Positivity “on her wall and I fell in love with the words. Hope you find it inspiring as well.

 

And It Is So………….

SU~JO~LY

 

 

 

INTUITION, YOUR VOICE WITHIN.

Life has a way of making moves for you without your permission.

Why do we overthink things? Why do we postpone the inevitable?

Women have this thing called intuition that we so often ignore because we doubt ourselves. We doubt that we’re good enough. We doubt that what we feel is our truth. We wait for validation from others who no matter how much they love us will never really feel or understand what we are feeling. They may have and idea, but each of us experience situations differently, we feel things different no matter how similar it may be there is a difference.

I say all that to say this, when a woman is in a relationship and she knows that it is not going anywhere, its not going to get better, she deserves better and so on and so on, she tends to rationalize staying by thinking her gut instinct, that intuition we’ve been blessed with must be somehow wrong. Well ladies , guess what? The more we ignore our God given intuition the more we put ourselves in situations that makes us unhappy and miserable.

Society has taught us to let our hearts lead the way. Then our brains and then maybe we can let Mr. Intuition have a small window to vent its opinion. I say put intuition first then brain then heart and I say this not from reading books and watching romantic movies but from life experiences.

Now intuition is not just handy in love relationships but in all relationships, from personal, business, friendships ,financial or even something like buying a house or a pair of shoes. That gut feeling we all have experience at one point or another. That sense that something is not right or is right. The feeling of stomach knots or chills, you know what I am talking about because you have theses feelings from time to time. But ignore them.

I know I have ignored my intuition a few times and paid dearly for it. I know better now. What I do now is when I get the feeling I get still, I allow the feeling to flow through me and I can tell if its a yay or a nay feeling and I go with what feels right. Boy has that saved me a lot of headache and heartache.

I love my intuition. It had never failed me…….. if I truly tune into it that is.

Let me know if you have any thoughts on this. Are you tuned into your intuition?

 

AND IT IS SO…………..

SU~JO~LY

CONTINUE TO……………LIVE!!!!!!

The only constant in life is change.

When life seems to be in an uproar and things are not going the way you would like it to be, CONTINUE……..

Continue to live, to persevere, keep moving. It will not always be that tough. Life contains cycles of good, bad and indifferent circumstances and events. That is just how life goes.

You will never know how great things would turn out if you give up when things get tough. I have heard of tons of life stories from different individuals about how great their lives turned out because they never gave up, but continued to persevere through the tough times. If they gave up at the point of pressure they would never been living the prosperous life they live now.

CONTINUE…….. look beyond whatever the uncomfortable situation you’re experiencing and continue to work toward the goal you set for yourself.  Use the uncomfortable feeling as fuel to continue to achieve great things in your life. Surround yourself with people and things that motivate and inspire you. Continue to see the bigger picture. Continue to keep working on getting better. Continue to live the best life you can live. Take it one day at a time but continue to pursue your dreams.

CONTINUE…….DON’T GIVE UP………CONTINUE TO BREATH!!!!!

 

AND IT IS SO……….

SO~JO~LY

 

GRATITUDE……. My New Form Of Complaining.

I read an article from life coach blogger aureliarogalli about complaining and the impact it has on your life. It resonated with me because there was a time in my life where I was heading down that same path of becoming an avid complainer.

It only last a little while but it made my life seem valueless. Then one day I decided enough was enough and I made the conscious decision to quit complaining and use gratitude as my new form of complaining.

Anytime I felt the urge coming on to complain about something I would think of another thing I am grateful for and I would give thanks. A simple thing like the coffee I drank in the morning I gave thanks for and I began giving thanks daily for everyone and everything in my life, and boy did that change things drastically for the better. It was like over night I became a new person and positive things began happening in my life. I saw things in a totally different way. And I loved the results.

The more I used gratitude the more great things came my way. Gratitude is now in my DNA and has become part of my daily routine. Its like breathing to me now.

Give it a try and see the difference in your life. Experience the abundance of good vibrations and harmony in your presence. You will not regret it I guarantee you.

Make gratitude your new form of complaining and see your life positively change for the better.

 

AND IT IS SO…….

SU~JO~LY